ANSWER THIS.

When a child is born, does the world change to meet that child’s desires, wants, expectations and needs or does the child have to adapt to meet the desires, wants, expectations and needs of the world?  What did you do?  Were your parents sensitive to the unique needs and interests which you expressed?   How many times have you been able to fully and completely express your authentic self without someone disapproving?

Did you create a substitute persona so you could survive in a world not of your making?  Today, when you go to work or to dinner with your relatives, who shows up?  Who is the you that is going out in the world today?  Isn’t it the persona you created just to survive?  Through the years haven’t you just perfected it so that it functions automatically, efficiently and always?

Does this persona now work hard to just get by?  It likely uses a few drinks or drugs to get a little relief, is grumpy too often, fails or efforts at true relationship, runs up debt, suffers illnesses, rages at the world and does just about everything it can to keep from admitting the truth – the truth that this persona you created is an illusion, a mental construct.

This persona only exits as a figment of your consciousness.  You created it as a child to handle situations in which you had no choice.  You created it so you could survive.  Congratulations, you have succeeded.  You have survived!  It worked!

CAN YOU GET OUT?

Understand that the beliefs and strategies which allowed you to survive as a child are killing you as an adult.  As a child, you could not exist without them and you had no choice but to create yourself into a person who could to some degree “fit in”.  Everyone does this.  You are not alone.

Congratulations, your survival is no longer in question.  You have survived but now your goal is to thrive.  You have a different objective so you must go in a different direction.  You need a new way.